Ever noticed those little things you pick up from those around you?
Around a year ago I felt God talking to me about starting a blog and that my first post would be on this topic and recently i've realised what he wants me to say. I am by no means a natural behind the camera (took me many attempts!!) but thought it was important to give the option to either listen or read - so take your pick!
My first point is that relationships are soooo powerful, particularly with those that we are closest to.
“We are the average of the 5 people we most spend time with".
- Jim Rohn
Sometimes in life we don't have much control over who we have been closest to. As I write this, we are in the midst of the Covid-19 Pandemic (eek!) and so everyone in the UK has experienced this in some way or another. Some of us have been on our own, others have been ringfenced into a house with our family! I have moved in with my folks for a few months so I have, by default, 4 people that I am now closest to (I only have 1 person left?!)
It's really got me thinking how much of an impact those people can have on our lives, particularly as the lockdown restrictions are loosened and we are able to see up to 6 people - who are we going to choose to spend the most time with?
The extent of how true Jim R's quote is shines through when we look at psychology. There is a biological mechanism in our brains called the 'mirror neuron system' which causes us to observe others actions as through we are doing them ourselves. This helps us to develop healthy emotional intelligence and bonds with other people, but it also causes us to imitate those we are close to.
A study called the 'Convergence in the Physical Appearance of Spouses' found that facial similarity in married couples increased over time and concluded that this similarity arose as a consequence of couples frequently mimicking one another's facial expressions.
I don't know about you but I find it incredible that our closest relationships can influence us so much that they can alter the way that we look!
God wants our relationship with him to be like that - so close that we resemble Him.
This really adds power when we look back to Genesis 1:27 that tells us 'we are made in God's image' - He created us to BE IMITATORS OF HIM!
He wanted us to be soooo close to him that we would BEAR HIS LIKENESS, that we would be compelled by His spirit and His light would radiate through us.
That's pretty awesome!!
Whilst we bear His image on earth, it's important to also think about how we influence those around us.
"Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them."